沃伦·巴菲特向来因超凡的金融智慧，还有白手起家成为亿万富翁的经历闻名。
不过如果想要效仿这位94岁的商业巨头、投资家兼慈善家，还要学习如何谨慎地选择结婚对象。
2017年巴菲特与微软联合创始人比尔·盖茨对话时，曾表示自己成功主要因为选对了配偶。
“应该跟你希望成为的人交往，这样你也会获得成长，”巴菲特说，“而身边最重要的无疑是配偶，重要性难以言喻。”
寻找合适的对象结婚，其实跟美貌、性格或幽默感关系不大。
“若想婚姻长久，找伴侣时期望值要降低，”2015年在《财富》“最具影响力的商界女性峰会”上巴菲特曾表示。
彭博社（Bloomberg）数据显示，身价约1520亿美元的巴菲特目前位列全球富豪榜第八位。今年5月，身兼伯克希尔-哈撒韦公司（Berkshire Hathaway）联合创始人，总裁和首席执行官的巴菲特宣布退休，指定格雷格·阿贝尔为接班人。他的第一任妻子是苏珊·巴菲特，两人于1952年结婚，育有三名子女。
2004年苏珊因脑溢血去世，两年后巴菲特与多年好友阿斯特丽德·门克斯结婚。值得一提的是，苏珊在世时三人就关系密切，据罗杰·洛温斯坦2008年所著《巴菲特：美国资本家的诞生》（Buffett: The Making of an American Capitalist）一书，三人甚至曾联名寄圣诞贺卡，署名“沃伦、苏西和阿斯特丽德”。
“沃伦在情感上被苏珊深深吸引，苏珊既是他的思想导师，性感女神，获得社会认可的桥梁，也是心理治疗师。后来沃伦曾表示，苏珊帮他拔掉了保守母亲留在身上的‘每根’尖刺，”2012年专栏作家杰里·鲍耶在《福布斯》（Forbes ）一篇评论文章中写道。“她也为自己作为已婚妇女争取到了金钱和极大的‘自由’。”
虽然巴菲特的婚史有些非传统，多年来他还是一直分享爱情相关的智慧。
以下是他对于爱情的三个建议。
选择对的人结婚
2017年HBO的纪录片《成为沃伦·巴菲特》（Becoming Warren Buffett）中，他说自己生活中有两个“转折点”：一是出生的时候，第二个就是遇到苏珊的时候。
“没有她，我不会获得今天的成就，”巴菲特说。
巴菲特还强调要娶“对的人”，他说苏珊就是“对的人”。
“一定要跟对的人结婚。我是认真的，”2009年他在伯克希尔-哈撒韦年会上说，“这将对你的生活带来更多改变，会改变你的抱负，很多事都会受影响。”
追求持久的婚姻，不要只盯着幸福与否
与“妻子开心，生活舒心”的说法相反，巴菲特不管处理个人还是职业关系时预期都很低。
“如果结婚，就追求能持久的婚姻，”他在一次大学讲座上说，“你会希望配偶具有什么品质？只有一个选项。你希望对方充满智慧吗？希望有幽默感吗？寻找有某种个性？还是希望对方美丽？”
“不，”巴菲特说，“不一定要追求快乐的婚姻，或是玛莎·斯图尔特会谈论的那种（玛莎·斯图尔特的节目和内容常聚焦于理想化的婚姻、家居与社交场景，代表着大众文化中对 “幸福婚姻” 的浪漫化想象——译者注）。要追求能持久的婚姻。”
婚姻比金钱重要
虽然拥有旁人无法想象的财富，但巴菲特说金钱并不是他最宝贵的东西。
“无条件的爱才是最大的幸福，”2008年他对MBA学生说。
妻子苏珊无条件的爱，是他不断前进的动力。
“爱之所以不可思议，就在于不会耗尽，”2008年的谈话中他说，“如果付出爱，会得到双倍的爱，但如果只想占有，爱反而会消失。这形成了一种很特别的悖论，倾尽所有去传递爱的人，往往能收获十倍的回报。”
金钱可以买到很多东西，但确实买不到爱。
“爱的问题在于是非卖品，”2001年巴菲特对乔治亚大学的学生说，“得到爱的唯一方式是让自己值得被爱。如果你非常有钱，就容易很烦恼。你认为可以开张一百万美金的支票然后说，我要买一百万美金的爱。其实行不通。你付出的爱越多，得到的爱才会越多。”（*）
译者：夏林
沃伦·巴菲特向来因超凡的金融智慧，还有白手起家成为亿万富翁的经历闻名。
不过如果想要效仿这位94岁的商业巨头、投资家兼慈善家，还要学习如何谨慎地选择结婚对象。
2017年巴菲特与微软联合创始人比尔·盖茨对话时，曾表示自己成功主要因为选对了配偶。
“应该跟你希望成为的人交往，这样你也会获得成长，”巴菲特说，“而身边最重要的无疑是配偶，重要性难以言喻。”
寻找合适的对象结婚，其实跟美貌、性格或幽默感关系不大。
“若想婚姻长久，找伴侣时期望值要降低，”2015年在《财富》“最具影响力的商界女性峰会”上巴菲特曾表示。
彭博社（Bloomberg）数据显示，身价约1520亿美元的巴菲特目前位列全球富豪榜第八位。今年5月，身兼伯克希尔-哈撒韦公司（Berkshire Hathaway）联合创始人，总裁和首席执行官的巴菲特宣布退休，指定格雷格·阿贝尔为接班人。他的第一任妻子是苏珊·巴菲特，两人于1952年结婚，育有三名子女。
2004年苏珊因脑溢血去世，两年后巴菲特与多年好友阿斯特丽德·门克斯结婚。值得一提的是，苏珊在世时三人就关系密切，据罗杰·洛温斯坦2008年所著《巴菲特：美国资本家的诞生》（Buffett: The Making of an American Capitalist）一书，三人甚至曾联名寄圣诞贺卡，署名“沃伦、苏西和阿斯特丽德”。
“沃伦在情感上被苏珊深深吸引，苏珊既是他的思想导师，性感女神，获得社会认可的桥梁，也是心理治疗师。后来沃伦曾表示，苏珊帮他拔掉了保守母亲留在身上的‘每根’尖刺，”2012年专栏作家杰里·鲍耶在《福布斯》（Forbes ）一篇评论文章中写道。“她也为自己作为已婚妇女争取到了金钱和极大的‘自由’。”
虽然巴菲特的婚史有些非传统，多年来他还是一直分享爱情相关的智慧。
以下是他对于爱情的三个建议。
选择对的人结婚
2017年HBO的纪录片《成为沃伦·巴菲特》（Becoming Warren Buffett）中，他说自己生活中有两个“转折点”：一是出生的时候，第二个就是遇到苏珊的时候。
“没有她，我不会获得今天的成就，”巴菲特说。
巴菲特还强调要娶“对的人”，他说苏珊就是“对的人”。
“一定要跟对的人结婚。我是认真的，”2009年他在伯克希尔-哈撒韦年会上说，“这将对你的生活带来更多改变，会改变你的抱负，很多事都会受影响。”
追求持久的婚姻，不要只盯着幸福与否
与“妻子开心，生活舒心”的说法相反，巴菲特不管处理个人还是职业关系时预期都很低。
“如果结婚，就追求能持久的婚姻，”他在一次大学讲座上说，“你会希望配偶具有什么品质？只有一个选项。你希望对方充满智慧吗？希望有幽默感吗？寻找有某种个性？还是希望对方美丽？”
“不，”巴菲特说，“不一定要追求快乐的婚姻，或是玛莎·斯图尔特会谈论的那种（玛莎·斯图尔特的节目和内容常聚焦于理想化的婚姻、家居与社交场景，代表着大众文化中对 “幸福婚姻” 的浪漫化想象——译者注）。要追求能持久的婚姻。”
婚姻比金钱重要
虽然拥有旁人无法想象的财富，但巴菲特说金钱并不是他最宝贵的东西。
“无条件的爱才是最大的幸福，”2008年他对MBA学生说。
妻子苏珊无条件的爱，是他不断前进的动力。
“爱之所以不可思议，就在于不会耗尽，”2008年的谈话中他说，“如果付出爱，会得到双倍的爱，但如果只想占有，爱反而会消失。这形成了一种很特别的悖论，倾尽所有去传递爱的人，往往能收获十倍的回报。”
金钱可以买到很多东西，但确实买不到爱。
“爱的问题在于是非卖品，”2001年巴菲特对乔治亚大学的学生说，“得到爱的唯一方式是让自己值得被爱。如果你非常有钱，就容易很烦恼。你认为可以开张一百万美金的支票然后说，我要买一百万美金的爱。其实行不通。你付出的爱越多，得到的爱才会越多。”（*）
译者：夏林
Warren Buffett is acclaimed for his financial savvy—and his success as a self-made billionaire.
Those wishing to emulate the 94-year-old businessman, investor, and philanthropist should pay close attention to the person they marry.
Buffett said during a 2017 conversation with Microsoft cofounder Bill Gates he credits his choice of spouse with making him successful.
“You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you’d like to be. You’ll move in that direction,” Buffett said. “And the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse. I can’t overemphasize how important that is.”
And his key to finding the right person to marry has little to do with beauty, character, or a sense of humor.
“If you want a marriage to last, look for someone with low expectations,” Buffett told Fortune at the 2015 Most Powerful Women Summit.
Buffett is the eighth-richest person in the world and is worth about $152 billion, according to Bloomberg. The cofounder, chairman, and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway announced his retirement in May and named Greg Abel his successor. He married Susan Buffett in 1952 and had three children with her: Susie, Howard, and Peter. Susan died in 2004 at the age of 72 after suffering a cerebral hemorrhage.
Two years following Susan’s death, Buffett married Astrid Menks, who had been longtime friends with the Buffetts. Oddly enough, all three were very close friends when Susan was still alive, and they even sent out Christmas cards signed “Warren, Susie, and Astrid,” according to Roger Lowenstein’s 2008 book Buffett: The Making of an American Capitalist.
“Warren was emotionally captivated by Susan who was at once his ideological mentor, his sexual goddess, his gateway to social acceptance, and his therapist, who Warren would later say pulled out ‘every one’ of the claws that his conservative mother had left in him,” columnist Jerry Bowyer wrote in a 2012 Forbes opinion piece. “She got money and an extraordinary amount of ‘freedom’ for a married woman.”
Even with a somewhat unconventional marital history, Buffett has shared love-related wisdom over the years.
Below are three tips he’s given about love.
Choose the right person to marry
In HBO’s 2017 documentary, Becoming Warren Buffett, the investment legend said he had “two turning points” in his life: The first was when he came out of the womb, and the second was when he met Susan.
“What happened with me would not have happened without her,” Buffett said.
Buffett also emphasizes marrying the “right person,” which he found in Susan.
“Marry the right person. I’m serious about that,” he said during a 2009 Berkshire Hathaway annual meeting. “It will make more difference in your life. It will change your aspirations, all kinds of things.”
Aim for a lasting marriage—not a happy one
Going against the saying of “happy wife, happy life,” Buffett approaches both personal and professional relationships with low expectations.
“If you’re going to get married and you want a marriage that’s going to last,” he said during a university lecture. “What quality do you look for in a spouse? One quality. Do you look for brains? Do you look for humor? Do you look for character? Do you look for beauty?”
“No,” Buffett said. “Not necessarily the happiest marriage—or one that Martha Stewart will talk about. You want a marriage that is going to last.”
Marriage before money
Even with greater fortune than nearly everyone else in the world, Buffett said that money isn’t the best thing he’s ever received.
“Being given unconditional love is the greatest benefit you can ever get,” he told MBA students in a 2008 talk.
That unconditional love from his wife Susan is what kept him motivated.
“The incredible thing about love is that you can’t get rid of it,” he said during the 2008 talk. “If you try to give it away, you end up with twice as much, but if you try to hold on to it, it disappears. It is an extraordinary situation, where the people who just absolutely push it out, get it back 10-fold.”
And while money can buy a lot of things, it’s true it can’t buy love.
“The problem with love is that it’s not for sale,” Buffett told University of Georgia students in 2001. “The only way to get love is to be lovable. It’s very irritating if you have a lot of money. You’d like to think you could write a check: I’ll buy a million dollars’ worth of love. But it doesn’t work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.”